Unless the Lord Builds The House
1 Samuel 1:28 ; Deuteronomy 6:4–7; Psalm 127:3
1. THE FOUNDATION FOR A SUCCESSFUL FAMILY (Psalms 127:1–2)
What is necessary (127:1)
- The home must be built by the Lord (127:1)
- The home must be protected by the Lord (127:1)
What is needless (127:2)
Laboring in anxious independence of God is vain (127:2), but working under God and in obedience to His ways is fruitful (cf. 1:3).
2. The Blueprint for Construction (Deuteronomy 6:4–7)
(1) Personal commitment (2) Parental communication
- In speech
- In symbols
- In surroundings
Some years ago the city of Houston Texas waged an ad campaign to deter juvenile crime, the Houston Police Depart-ment came up with “Twelve Rules for Raising Juvenile Delinquent Children.”
- Begin with infancy to give the child everything he wants. In this way he will grow up to believe the world owes him a living.
- When he picks up bad words, laugh at him. This will make him think that it is cute.
- Never give him any spiritual training. Wait until he is twenty-one and then let him “decide for himself.’
- Avoid use of the word “wrong.” It may develop a guilt complex. This will condition him to believe later, when he is arrested for stealing a car, that society is against him and he is being persecuted.
- Pick up everything he leaves lying around. Do everything for him so that he will be experienced in throwing all responsibility on others.
- Let him read any printed matter he can get his hands on. Be careful, that the silverware and drinking glasses are sterilized, but let his mind feast on garbage.
- Quarrel frequently in the presence of your children. In this way they won’t be shocked when the home is broken up later.
- Give a child all the spending money he wants. Never let him earn his own.
- Satisfy his every craving for food, drink and comfort. See that every sensual desire is gratified.
- Take his part against neighbors, teachers and policemen. They are all prejudiced against your child.
- When he gets into real trouble, apologize for yourself by saying, “I never could do anything with him.
- Prepare for a life of grief. You will likely have it. [Quoted by Charles Swindoll. You and Your Child. (Nashville, Nelson Pub., 1977) pp. 63-64.]